. >> melinda's husband doug has always called him fatty and wide girl. >> hey, big girl, you need to get up and move more, big girl. >> doug who is a psychologist himself says it's his way of trying to motivate his wife to lose weight. >> we set up the environment of the system and then she will self-sabotage. >> but it's actually creating anxiety, damaging their marriage and contributing to melinda's weight gain. >> basically i just want to sleep. >> on top of that he has a phd in behavioral psychology? this is cruel. >> springfield, virginia nutritionist alana sugar says she actually sees a lot of clients like this going through the same thing, wives referred to her by their husbands who berate them about their weight. she says the results are damaging and can take a long time to reverse. >> they'll become a closet eater later. they'll stuff themselves with their ice cream or their high fat high calorie high sugar comfort food later on because that's what's nourishing for nurturing for them. >> words are powerful and internal words are extremely powerful. that's why you're saying y